Certainly, no relationship can stand the test of time without the foundations of a strong friendship.The purity of an initial friendship allows you to see someone’s character before it’s blurred by sexual intentions and wanting to ‘get’ something physical out of it.It’s been scientifically proven that the longer you’ve known somebody, the more attractive you’ll find them.
In fact, some of the best relationships often start out as friendships.
Some students were asked to rate each other at the beginning of the semester, and again at the end.
Naturally, these rates increased hugely over time, explaining how – in numerical terms – a “seven” can easily become a “ten” in a matter of weeks.
In other words, when it comes to long-term attraction, aesthetics has very little to do with it.
A further study carried out by the same professors asked 167 couples how long they’d known one another before becoming romantically involved and whether they were friends first.
They found that, on the average, the couples had known each other four months before dating. Plus, 40 per cent of them were friends beforehand. this tells a lot about the role friendship plays first.
You never feel more comfortable than when you’re with your friends, right? They’re the ones you laugh with, the ones you cry with and they often know you better than your own family.
So it makes sense that some of us are inclined to fraternize with friendship when both parties are of the same sexual orientation.
So, why is it that platonic familiarity so frequently leads to romance?
Well like i earlier said “The purity of an initial friendship allows you to see someone’s character before it’s blurred by sexual intentions and wanting to ‘get’ something physical out of it,”
The most enduring romantic relationships – long-term marriages and partnerships – end up being that way when friendship is its foundation.
The question now is, how do you know when it’s time to take things up a notch and, more importantly, how can you tell if your feelings will be reciprocated?
Start by thinking about how much time you spend together on your own(together). Do they get jealous when you mention other people’s names or go on dates? You can test them a little to see how they react when you talk about what you are up to when you aren’t with them. They might not say much but you’ll be able to read a lot into their body language (since you know them better) and their willingness to discuss the topic.
An author, Jones believes that in order for friendship to turn into something more, there has to be a looming, momentous change in one of your lives.“That’s when friends often end up in bed together,” he went on to say.“when the friendship has a built-in deadline and they feel they have less to lose.”
“Instead of telling someone ‘I like you, what do you think?’, which forces them into a position of having to give you an answer, start flirting with them a little and see what happens.”
Personally for me “I think going from friends to more than that is often scary because if it doesn’t go well, it’s pretty much impossible to go back to your friendship the way it was before”. Men and women can never be friends,because the sex part always gets in the way.its something you always have to address from the beginning.
So in that friendship may lie the potential of a life time partner. Since they already know what your dreams are, ambitions, hopes and aspirations and even shortcomings. they know every single detail about you.they can tell a tale almost the same way you would tell it if you weren’t there.They make better partners.I believe they would make better lovers too.
So bite the bullet, take the leap, embrace failure and any other romantic clichés you can think of.
Life is short: if you love them, let them know.