What is the 80/20 Rule in Relationships? And does it really Work?

Some Believe It could be the secret to a successful Self sustaining love life!!

You might have heard of the 80/20 rule in life. It can be applied to many different aspects of daily life from the basic things in our lives, to the money we earn and spend to how we choose to juggle the days’ activities or tasks to derive maximum output. But now people are using it to help strengthen their relationships too.

When it comes to your love life, the 80/20 rule centers on the idea that one person cannot meet 100 per cent of your needs all the time.


One partner is permitted to take a fraction of time – that 20 per cent – away from the other partner in other to be able to take part in more self-fulfilling activities and assume their individuality.

In some cases, partners may choose to take up a new hobby or even go traveling without the pressure of having to check-in with the other.It gives them time to think, relax their minds, meditate, review events in their lives and make new sound decisions capable of putting the spark back in the relationship.

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For long-term relationships, where compromise can sometimes be difficult, the 80/20 rule aims to eliminate any feelings of resentment by offering space and some much-needed time apart.

A ‘20%’ period is all about self-reliance which can either mean abstaining from sexual interaction with a partner or choosing to enjoy the company of others.
In this way, it can be perceived as an open relationship but couples must ensure that these flings only take place during their allocated break and it doesn’t go beyond what was agreed.

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Taking the phrase ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ quite literally, this concept requires an incredible level of trust. But when it works, it works well, with many couples claiming that is has helped to strengthen their relationship.

But you should bear in mind its most obvious pitfall. What if your partner starts enjoying their 20 per cent time away more than the time they’re spending with you? you just have to have laid down rules or take precautions to guard against this ever coming to play.

So YES! the 80/20 rule in Relationship does work, If both parties stick to the rules of the ‘agreement’.

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