Whether “the heart was made to be broken” or not, breakups are rough – regardless of what Oscar Wilde would have us believe.
It takes about 11 weeks to feel the benefits of a breakup, according to a study in The Journal of Positive Psychology.
But how do you do it without finding yourself ‘sinking’ into a whole new world of Emotional Depression?
Well, We’ve rounded up some of the best scientifically proven advice on mending a broken heart.
Here they are: We hope they help you find some emotional ‘recovery’ in good time.
Cry a little, cry a lot. Cry a whole river if you have to.But just Cry.Get it all out and get it off your chest.
When a relationship comes to a bitter end, it’s important to acknowledge what went wrong and yes, often this involves embracing the waterworks.
Not only has shedding a tear or two been proven to lift one’s spirits – but various studies suggest that taking time to think about a break up can help heal the pain faster.
One in particular found that those who had “thoughtfully reflected” on the split felt less lonely and had an easier time moving on.you would too.
Talk, talk and then talk to someone new
Talk to your best mate, gist with your pals, gossip with your gynaecologist, if you have one of those.
Ultimately, keeping things bottled up will only lead to bigger problems in the long run. Give everyone in your life the full post-apocalyptic debrief until they can bear it no more.
When they stop bringing you ice cream and start telling you to build a bridge and get over it, you know it’s time to move on i.e. “shake it off” and find yourself a new lover.
Besides, a 2014 study found that those who “rebounded” into new relationships after a break-up experienced better well-being than those who remained single.
A fairly obvious commandment, but important nonetheless.Give yourself a nice treat.
Book that trip for yourself, go for a long walk in the park or sign up for a cooking class – all of which have been proven to make you a happier human. Go forth and smile.
Write about it
If it hurts you, write about it.Not necessarily in a pretentious “I need to tell the whole world about how awful you were to me” in a really clever, witty, euphemism-riddled blog post” kind-of-a-way.
The benefits of writing – during times of torment are widely documented. In addition to helping you come to terms with your thoughts, writing about your break up could help reduce stress, anxiety and allow you to solve problems more efficiently. Do try it out.
Cut them off completely
Don’t spend your day wondering what they ate for lunch or if they still visit that popular hang out bar every Friday like they used to do when you were still together.believe me, it wont do you any good.
Unfollow them on Facebook/Twitter/Instragram/Pinterest and all. There is no reason for you to be hovering over your ex’s social media feeds. A 2012 study found that out of 464 participants, those who remained friends on Facebook with their exes experiences greater levels of distress and lower personal growth.
Do you want your ex to lower your personal growth?
I sure Didn’t think so. So let them go!