Does it seem like your partner is not interested in you? does it seem like as each day goes by, their interest in you dwindles and pulls closer to extinction?You notice you don’t get those texts you used to get asking how your day is going. You don’t remember the last time he or she seemed super turned on and wanted to have sex with you. Maybe they barely even says hello when they walk through the door. Hmmm! i can imagine the feeling.
You try to do special things, plan surprise dinners and outings you feel they will enjoy, perhaps buy small gifts or do little special things for them around the house, hoping and waiting for them to come around and notice how great you are.
And it still doesn’t work. You just continue to be the invisible woman or man, hurt, confused and wondering how to get him back.
Well, lovers I’ve got news for you: Your partner doesn’t want a partner who orbits around them continually. He or She wants YOU!! They fell in love with you for who you are, your passions and your quirks and that’s what is going to get their attention back.
Here’s how to be totally irresistible again!
Know this fact : People can only love and enjoy you as much as you love and enjoy yourself.
Try these 5 things and breathe life back into your relationship:
1. Dress To Impress YOURSELF
Have you ever heard the phrase “Dress to kill”? Wear things that you feel sexy wearing and spend a little extra time making yourself look sexy. Don’t be afraid to get your sexy on anytime, even when you’re cleaning the house, cooking or doing whatever. They will sense this vibe.
You’re more likely going to successfully get their attention if your feeling sexy inside, as opposed to trying to look sexy for them. after all, you are doing this for them in the long run.
2. Find Your Own Passion (Do what you love)
Go back to thinking about what you enjoy and start engaging in your own life from there. Enjoy whatever activity you love during your free time, which now includes the time he or she is around. People generally respect you when they see you are busy doing your own thing or what you love. they see you now have purpose and drive and this generally pulls them to you in ways you cant explain.
For example, if you used to really enjoy listening to music around the house and maybe even singing and dancing around, do it! If you use to get into elaborate cooking project with a glass of wine, do that! Absolutely anything from reading to creating new hairstyles, if you enjoy it, DO IT!!
3. Get Out Of Your House
Take a class (dance, art, cooking, or ANYTHING that you would enjoy) make plans with friends, go to some events (talks, shows, movies, art openings, live music, or, you guessed it, ANYTHING that you would enjoy!). the aim is to free your mind and set yourself free. this sometimes adds ‘life’ to you and reverses the already ‘drowning’ relationship.
4. Ask them To Join You, But Be Okay On Your Own if they dont
Invite your Partner to join you in your good times and don’t take it personally if he/she declines. Be persistent in enjoying yourself.This is the key.
If you find your life is changing for the better and you’re beginning to feel good about yourself, but your partner still acts like the walking dead around you, tell them how you feel. talk about it, it might just make all the difference. they may have things on their mind this opportunity will help them express.
Tell them you miss them and you miss the connection. It could be there’s something else going on for him/her and it’s worth seeking the counsel of a couples therapist to get to the bottom of it.
5. Make Time For Family
If you’re tied to the home and don’t have a lot of freedom because you’re with your children, start engaging more deeply with them. There are a lot of fun things to do with your children both at home and in the community.
When you start actively engaging with them and making it really fun, you’re not only going to be more fun to be around, you’re developing invaluable neural and heart connections that help lay down or solidify the foundation for healthy social and cognitive development.
And hopefully, you’re developing a closer relationship with them that feels good. Your man or woman should both appreciate and want to join in family time especially if it looks like fun.
Lastly and more importantly, learn to pray for them. they may be going through a phase of their lives they cant explain well enough and this is simply why they feel detached from you. Prayers have a subtle way of making anybody find their feet and retrace their steps back to those things that should matter to them.
Be that shoulder they can lean on when they truly need one.
Stay in love.