Learning to love your body is no easy task nor is it a walk in the park.
We now live in a world where thinness is most times equated with value and from a young age, we’re taught that fat is ugly and unattractive, which obviously affects our attitudes to relationships and dating.
But this notion that thinner is better is, slowly, changing as the body positivity movement has suddenly gained speed.
See top tips for loving your body and being more confident in your own ‘skin’ while dating.
1. Learn to touch your body with kindness
Learn to appreciate the softness of your body, rather than feeling bad about it.
It may be your stomach that seems to have a lot of ‘flesh’ and it bounces when you walk or try to make a first good impression. you will hate that part of your body.. yes! but that does not make it go away. look for reasons to like it, make jokes about it to yourself (after all feeling bad about it and raining curses on it hasn’t changed it), then perhaps you will begin to appreciate it yourself.
Actually just touching yourself with kindness – spending a little bit of time before you go to sleep to say the nicest things to yourself , being thankful, loving your self,thinking softness or this fat is lovely – and just getting used to being kinder to yourself in that way will go a long way in lifting your spirits.
2. Look at yourself in the mirror and talk good to yourself
The miracle of that mirror! The mirror does have a way of showing you what you are or what you choose to see. I know its hard but learn to stand in front of your mirror, firm up and force your lips to say the nicest positive things about yourself. indeed, what you constantly say to yourself, in time,your mind and body will begin to believe and respond to. when your mind and body begins to believe, you will feel a whole lot better and have a more positive approach to life and your self.
3. Unfollow people who make you feel bad about your body
Curating your Instagram feed with people who make you feel good about your self can have a huge effect on your relationship with your body. It’s the easiest thing in the world and it can make all the difference. I think people don’t realize how learned our idea of beauty is and you can actually change your perception of what is beautiful and what bodies are worthy and lovable. Follow only those that help your self esteem and would not criticize you unjustly or unfairly.
3. Keep questioning those popular ‘phrases’
We need to spend more time questioning where the idea comes from that thinness will make you more lovable or more worthy or more deserving. I think it comes from diet culture and the diet industry. the idea that when we lose weight, everything in our life will fall into place is a lie we’ve all been sold by companies selling weight loss products, but this simply isn’t true in any way.
We HONESTLY need to keep asking ourselves: “Why do I think everything in my life would be better if I was thinner? Where has that idea come from? how does it help me or my situation? Why am I hurting myself to fit this image that maybe I’m not supposed to be? Already, we feel like we are not worthy of finding someone good for us until we’re thin. Answers to these questions may be all you need to change your approach to life, see the positive side of your life and get on that date with that dream spouse
Truth is, you’re GREAT exactly as you are.