MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear an oversize one, be ready to drag it along with you through out your whole life, and when you wear an under-size one also be ready to feel the pains through out life.” One thing about marriage is that you don’t drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it may be.
That is why I thought it necessary to share with you this letter.
When you are ready to buy your own “shoe” please take note of these three (3) things:
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1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE : Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and beliefs, the one who you meet at your life’s journey.the one who will be willing to go through life’s ‘journey’ with you. It is important to know where you’re going in life before you think of getting a wife.
2. POSITION: All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place.
There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people’s sizes and the adult sizes. You must know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my dear. You cannot be a Christian for instance, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can’t just be everywhere.
Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself,know your worth,note your likes and dislikes and then define your values.
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3. PERCEPTIONS: In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is very important to seek guidance and counseling from people who have bought shoes before or are in the business of directing people to the right shoes ( marriage counselors and Relationship coaches).
And more importantly, to avoid wasting time, simply consult the shoe manufacturer (Almighty God) to tell you your size .
Note “You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage.”
Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend weddings and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. Wait!!! It is not just the wedding. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?
Finally, note that you don’t rush to the market and just ‘pick a shoe’ simply because you like it or can pay for it.
You must learn to Ask questions. Questions like:
-Where is this shoe made from? (Background check)
-What is it size? (Values)
-How much is it?(His/Her interest)
-How long will it last (His/Her Character)
-Who made it? (Does He/She share the same faith with you? This will show compatibility)
-Will it suit me? (Acceptance.You have to know if He/She will love & accept you just the way you are)
Do remember that so many out there are dragging their foot and because of this may never fulfil their true destinies, many more feel endless pains and wish they could ‘pull off’ the shoes even for just a little while but no way!!! they are stuck with it.I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars. Scars that they have been carrying overtime.Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is about the size. you can’t know the size from afar so you have to come close. Build a friendship or relationship first, Get to know that ‘would be’ spouse, go through the good times and bad times together,draw your lessons, take notes if you have to, lick your wounds and pick your self up every time you get ‘knocked down’ by the sometimes negative intricacies that comes with ‘love’. Above all, remember ‘you are not permitted to try it before you buy it‘. hence, you must investigate properly first.
And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you’d consult the manufacturer (God) and let Him have His way in your marriage.
Thank you. Please share.