Infidelity in relationships is one of the biggest causes of breakups — and divorce.
For Matthew Hussey, author of “love life strategist” he believes cheating is “whatever the two of you have decided is beyond the boundary of what is OK in your relationship.”
“There can be no one universal definition of cheating,” he told Business Insider. “It’s whatever it is to each partner. In an open relationship, this could be that one of you slept with someone and didn’t tell [the other].” The bad news is that cheating appears to be more common than you may have realized.
There are three types of people that are more likely to cheat than others. They are:
1. Self Obsessed People (Narcissists)
A self obsessed person can also be seen as a narcissists (a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves). For this type of people, it’s all about proving how lovable they are,It’s not enough for one person to love them; they want to make sure that everyone loves them.They’ll only feel validated when someone else flirts with them, sleeps with them, or kisses them.
A study found that narcissism is linked to people feeling less committed overall in ongoing romantic relationships, in part because they like the idea of finding someone better.
Self obsessed people find it hard to stay committed in relationships most times.they most times feel they are just too good for just one person alone to have to themselves.hence, the need to flirt or ‘test’ new waters.Self obsessed folks see themselves as a ‘gift’ to the world.
2. Insecure people.
“Insecure people are something to be careful of. And I don’t mean a basic level of insecurity that we all have, because we all have our own self-doubts and worries about ourselves. But when someone is so deeply insecure that if you don’t give them love today, they’re going to find it somewhere else — that’s awkward and dangerous.” because it means its all about love and not necessarily you.
In relationship, If someone goes without love for a long time, the propensity to cheat is going to increase.
Spouses have to constantly try to make their partners feel secured as feelings of insecurity is one of the primary root causes of cheating.
3. Selfish People.
Selfish people who don’t have a moral standard when it comes to their relationships” are the third type of people most likely to cheat. “They know if they cheat their partner would hate it or be traumatized by it, but their own selfish needs just take over caring less about the feelings of their partners or anyone else.
Selfishness in relationship is a ”suffocator”. It kills the values, love,respect and virtues of the relationship.